Scheduling and planning
Aug. 5th, 2004 08:05 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
talyenIt's been over two weeks that C and I have seen each other every day, at least at some point during the day. Over two weeks of wonderful getting-to-know-each-other time that makes me feel wonderful and is helping me get to know myself better, too. I love it.
What I don't understand, the part I am trying to figure out day by day, is how to cram everything into my day. It's an unusual experience for me to be with someone who wants to spend lots of time with me (vis. the past 7 years). And that experience alone is wonderful and satisfying. I love seeing her, want to see her every day, and do all the things we end up doing together. In my past recent relationships, I only had to make time for seeing the other person a few days each week, and on those days I would often give up doing something else I needed to do, knowing that I could put it off a day or two and get it done sometime when she wasn't going to be around.
Now I'm having to figure out how to add seeing C into my everyday life, without losing anything I need to do. And in some cases, including adding new things, like time for drumming. How does one do this? The days have a finite amount of time, and while I used to feel like I had a ton of time at home (eg watching baseball and knitting), now my time at home is the hour in the morning while I take care of my own and my pets' needs for cleanliness and food, the time while I'm changing between running clothes and street clothes and back again in the evening (sometimes even eating after my shower), and a few minutes near midnight when I collapse, sometimes now without journaling.
And yet, being with her makes me feel wonderful, and there isn't anything I'd rather be doing (certainly not baseball and knitting!). In fact, I want more hours, so I can feel like I get just an extra half-hour to journal, or time to sit with the cats. How can I get those extra hours? Lunch hour? Fewer committee meetings? Working 7:30am - 4pm? Carefully planning my weekends?
At least I am finally sleeping the whole night through. (: And waking up feeling just wonderful, often so deeply happy that I think the happiness is giving me energy I don't have time to get from sleep. I am dedicated to making sure that I never look back and wish I had done something differently, wish I hadn't given something up, or done something to myself; I want everything to be well-done, with C. So thinking about all this right now, in the beginning, seems really important. And new to me!
What I don't understand, the part I am trying to figure out day by day, is how to cram everything into my day. It's an unusual experience for me to be with someone who wants to spend lots of time with me (vis. the past 7 years). And that experience alone is wonderful and satisfying. I love seeing her, want to see her every day, and do all the things we end up doing together. In my past recent relationships, I only had to make time for seeing the other person a few days each week, and on those days I would often give up doing something else I needed to do, knowing that I could put it off a day or two and get it done sometime when she wasn't going to be around.
Now I'm having to figure out how to add seeing C into my everyday life, without losing anything I need to do. And in some cases, including adding new things, like time for drumming. How does one do this? The days have a finite amount of time, and while I used to feel like I had a ton of time at home (eg watching baseball and knitting), now my time at home is the hour in the morning while I take care of my own and my pets' needs for cleanliness and food, the time while I'm changing between running clothes and street clothes and back again in the evening (sometimes even eating after my shower), and a few minutes near midnight when I collapse, sometimes now without journaling.
And yet, being with her makes me feel wonderful, and there isn't anything I'd rather be doing (certainly not baseball and knitting!). In fact, I want more hours, so I can feel like I get just an extra half-hour to journal, or time to sit with the cats. How can I get those extra hours? Lunch hour? Fewer committee meetings? Working 7:30am - 4pm? Carefully planning my weekends?
At least I am finally sleeping the whole night through. (: And waking up feeling just wonderful, often so deeply happy that I think the happiness is giving me energy I don't have time to get from sleep. I am dedicated to making sure that I never look back and wish I had done something differently, wish I hadn't given something up, or done something to myself; I want everything to be well-done, with C. So thinking about all this right now, in the beginning, seems really important. And new to me!
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Date: 2004-08-05 05:55 am (UTC)That's easier when you co-habitate, though.
Other than that, congrats on the happiness! Keep it up.
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Date: 2004-08-23 08:55 am (UTC)I would like to do this, as this sounds exactly the way to do things. So far, since we can't run, bike, or swim together, we drum together. We go to friends' houses together. Jeff is suggesting that I get her onto ConCom *grin* so maybe I can get her involved in something time consuming that I do. And we've lifted together a couple times - it would be great if that worked out as something we can do together.
Cooking, eating, reading, watching movies: doing these things together would be 'way cool, and as we get more into the flow of our relationship, I'm thinking we'll find ways to add in doing things like this too.
It's not just the lack of co-habitation. It's also that she's a grad student!!